It takes quite some relaxation before one starts thinking about what are usually rated ‘silly’ things, such as universal relativism. Having spent the last couple of days in an uneventful place — with an agenda consisted of important processes such as dining and analysing sunsets — I must admit I had given it some thoughts. It was fun. What a great and thoughtful holiday. And just by chance, after having voluntarily agreed to enter a defined closed space and giving up the absolute freedom of space, I was exposed to an audio interference of the outside. The commercial Hollywood-style subculture, how a friend calls it, had made its way through. It did not distract me though. It just helped me think about a specific prism of looking into universal or absolute relativism, the one of fundaments of doubts.
The interference came through an artist I had heard before, but never heard of her. In what seem to be an unimportant part of the song “Not fair” by Lily Alen, the original fundamental doubt of what are defined to be premarital romantic relationships is raised. In a monologue, Alen expresses the doubts of a woman who is generally satisfied with her man, except sexually that is. And after describing brutally, yet sweetly, how he can never make her scream and how all he does is take, due to, although not explicitly stated, but yet obviously described premature ejaculation, the unnecessary doubt is raised. The song goes something along the lines of “maybe I’m just overreacting, maybe you’re the one for me”.
What it made me wonder is how much do we lose in life, in terms of time, nerves, efforts and energy, by raising such stupid and totally unnecessary doubts. Albeit leading a life based on ‘no regrets’ principles, it still took me quite some time thinking of very, very similar doubts. But why should we? Why should we question our selfishness of wanting to have pleasure? Especially sexual one?! Let me just get back to Lily Allen, who in this song says that “there’s just one thing that’s getting in the way, when we go up to bed you’re just not good it’s such a shame”. Now imagine what a desperate state this is…
Here’s a very nice version of this song, performed live…
Tags: lily allen, love, music, music reviews, not fair, premature ejaculation, relationships, sex, song
